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Sometimes I don't understand the inner
workings of some people. I have a coworker who has been with the company
for a couple months now, and I have to wonder about some of his actions.
Apparently, we were under a heat advisory today here in Des Moines.
We had a high of 93 degrees. It is July after all. The
strange part is how my coworker called home to his wife this morning to tell her
about it. He said something to the effect of, "Honey, I just found
out there's a heat advisory for us today. Tell the kids that for every
hour they play outside today they have to come in for 5 minutes for water.
They must have a cup in their hand during this time. This rule also
applies to you, too, honey. Love you, bye."
After being subjected to that conversation (I share a cubicle wall with him), I just shook my head to myself. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean that you lose the ability to think independently.
I had met his wife and kids a couple weeks ago. My coworker brought them into the office. He had told me ahead of time that she used to be a French-English translator (English is her primary language), so I had a little bit of time to prepare a few sentences to say to her. She and I had a nice little conversation in French. I didn't mess up too badly. Anyway, she seemed well adjusted and seemed to do a decent job of controlling the little kids while they were in the office. It seemed like she performs just fine in her current role as a stay-at-home mom. I bet she already knew ways to make sure that the kids stay hydrated, and especially knew how to read her own body signs to see if she needed fluids.
It is fairly well known that I am currently single. Probably one of the leading things I am looking for in a woman is the ability to challenge me mentally. I'll explain. By challenge, I don't mean to get into verbal confrontations, fights, or anything like that. I mean that she would have a point of view on topics and be willing to espouse them and make me think. I don't mean on just extremely light topics like, "Should I wear the red top or the blue top", or extremely heavy topics like politics. I mean the intermediate topics as well.
To put it crudely, I don't want to end up with an Americanized version of a harem girl serving only as fodder for any physical desires I might have. I don't want a woman who thinks that it is her duty to acquiesce to me just because I have more testosterone and less estrogen than she has. I want an equal partner where one isn't dominant over the other. I don't want a mindless robot. If my idea about what action we should take is preferable to us as a couple, then we should use it. If her idea is preferable, then we should use hers.
I think I'll stop for the day here. I don't need to spew out all of my thoughts on relationships here at once.
After being subjected to that conversation (I share a cubicle wall with him), I just shook my head to myself. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean that you lose the ability to think independently.
I had met his wife and kids a couple weeks ago. My coworker brought them into the office. He had told me ahead of time that she used to be a French-English translator (English is her primary language), so I had a little bit of time to prepare a few sentences to say to her. She and I had a nice little conversation in French. I didn't mess up too badly. Anyway, she seemed well adjusted and seemed to do a decent job of controlling the little kids while they were in the office. It seemed like she performs just fine in her current role as a stay-at-home mom. I bet she already knew ways to make sure that the kids stay hydrated, and especially knew how to read her own body signs to see if she needed fluids.
It is fairly well known that I am currently single. Probably one of the leading things I am looking for in a woman is the ability to challenge me mentally. I'll explain. By challenge, I don't mean to get into verbal confrontations, fights, or anything like that. I mean that she would have a point of view on topics and be willing to espouse them and make me think. I don't mean on just extremely light topics like, "Should I wear the red top or the blue top", or extremely heavy topics like politics. I mean the intermediate topics as well.
To put it crudely, I don't want to end up with an Americanized version of a harem girl serving only as fodder for any physical desires I might have. I don't want a woman who thinks that it is her duty to acquiesce to me just because I have more testosterone and less estrogen than she has. I want an equal partner where one isn't dominant over the other. I don't want a mindless robot. If my idea about what action we should take is preferable to us as a couple, then we should use it. If her idea is preferable, then we should use hers.
I think I'll stop for the day here. I don't need to spew out all of my thoughts on relationships here at once.
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